Somehow, I just suddenly think about what my professor had asked us, back when I was studying in UGM. I couldn’t remember exactly when, but I remember for sure that he asked the students a question, “do you prefer to be loved by someone but you don’t know it? Or do you prefer that you feel loved but actually there is no one?”

He asked the students to raise their hand to the options they choose. I voted to be loved by someone but I didn’t know it. At that time, I think that it is better to have someone to taking care of me rather than hallucinating of someone loving me. I thought that’s pathetic!

It took me years to come to realize that human brain is just extremely extraordinary. The brain can make you to Feel the love. But on the other hand, no matter how hard the other person loves you, they might not be able to make you feel their love for you. Now that I really think about it, I’d like to change my vote. I would like to feel loved while there’s actually no one rather than not knowing that I’m loved.

When a person is loved but he/she had no idea about it, just imagine how lonely they might feel? They are not able to cherish the happiness of love because they do not know if the love exists for them. For us, the third party, of course we think that it’s romantic that this person has a kind of secret admire who might want to do anything for them. Meanwhile, for the person themselves, they don’t have any idea of what is going on, and they might think that they are all alone. That is because they cannot Feel it. It is also a disaster for those who have husband/wife/partner right by their side, but they do not feel to be loved.

Contrary, for the person who is alone but feel loved, they might feel a little less lonely. This is because their brain do all this work for them. (well, I’m not a scientist, so I cannot explain the scientific research about human brain) But I do believe that “Mind” has a huge power. So, when a person thinks (in their mind) they have someone who loves them, they would feel the love pouring into their body. They might feel sun shines so brightly, fruits seem so colorful, and all the people in the street are smiling to them.

Of course the ideal one is that to have someone to love you and you know it and feel it for sure. If this does happen, then lucky you and you can feel relieved. But till then, it is the power of your brain which helps you to feel love. Besides, it is not a hallucination to feel loved by no one. This is actually You through your brain who is loving You.

To be able to Feel the love is all that matters. Starts from there, you can see the beauty of the world by yourself, be grateful of what you have, and finally share the love.

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